Do I have the freedom? Getting the kids to ask this question instead of asking, May I? as in asking for permission is a step towards them starting to internalise the question themselves. This is, of course, just what I want them to do. I want them to be faced with a daily decision and to ask themselves Do I have the freedom? Do I have the freedom to leave this computer? Do I have the freedom to play this game? Do I have the freedom to speed? Do I have the freedom to watch this movie? Do I have the freedom?
What gives me freedom? It is not my inherent rights, but rather the freedom we have in Christ, the peace we get when our lives are in harmony with the desires of God.
The responsibility is mine, as the parent, to put into my childrens hearts the values that do line up with the Word of God so that they have a standard to think about. Once that standard (the Word of God) is in their heart, it has to become their responsibility, at some stage, to decide to follow it or not. We use the word Conscience, or prompting of the Holy Spirit but either way, the children have to slow down and learn to listen. There are times, already in their lives, that I am not physically with them; will they make the right choices?
We teach them by asking them the question, Do you have the freedom? and getting them to ask themselves Do I have the freedom? I believe this phrase is a tool that will help them make wise decisions now as children and in the future as an adult.