We make choices all day we choose to sit at the computer, we choose to read our Bible, we choose to exercise, we choose to do the housework or not! When we make a choice to do one thing we are automatically making a choice not to do something else (or vice versa) we cannot do both options this is the nature of choice.
We teach our children to see the consequences of their choices these consequences maybe positive (rewards/blessings) or they maybe negative (cost/penalty) depending on whether the choice was a good choice or not.
But there is another fall-out to our choices the fact that we cant choose two things at once! The truth is we cant do it all. If I have two good choices, and I choose one then it automatically means I cant do the other. This is a hard truth to deal with. There is so much good stuff out there to do but making choices is a reality we have to be aware of.
I make choices as a homeschool mum I choose to take on this study, I choose to read this book, I choose to spend this amount of time doing this particular thing, in this particular way with my children. My choices need to be well informed, and consistent with my belief system. I need to be aware of the consequences, the repercussions of my choices, and I need to be okay with that. I need to remember the very nature of making a choice is that I cant do everything I need to make a choice.
- If my child is sick I choose to look after her I cannot also choose to do the science experiment or excursion I had planned.
- If my child needs extra help in their math today I cannot also do the extra writing assignment I had planned.
- If our family is enjoying this read aloud we cannot be reading this other fantastic book.
- If our family has a passion for a particular field of study we cannot also dig deep into the field of study that another family is digging deep into.
- If our family has this goal we cannot take on the dreams of another goal.
When we say yes to one thing, we are saying no to another (and that second option neednt be a bad option just not the option we are choosing right now.).
- Making a choice for something means making a choice against something else
- Making a choice will have its repercussions
When we understand these two facts, we can move on and stop second guessing ourselves. We need to make wise, informed choices understanding that there are consequences (good or bad) and then we need to find a contentment in the choices we made (knowing that we cant do it all we had to make a choice). Finding this contentment in our choices will
- stop us from comparing ourselves with others (who have made different choices)
- stop us from trying to squeeze in one more activity, commitment, idea or homeschool method we cannot do it all
Be aware of the choices you are making today be aware of the choice that you say yes to and the choice you say no to. Be thankful that we have the ability and freedom to make those choices for our family!
Well said, Belinda! I think one of the things we have lost in our modern day is our "intentionality" as we speak and act. We take on so much, which is a choice, and then have to undo and edit and rearrange because we can't possibly do everything we've allowed into our life's time. Our choices do need to be more intentional. Thank you for this reminder!
Also want to let you know that there's another installment to my "I Wish I Could Go To A Farm" series posted…we're up to Part 7 now! God continues to work in marvelous ways in my son's life. He's 18 now…almost ready to "launch!" Hope you can stop by, I haven't heard from you for a while!
We are planning a Diana Waring weekend out here…you spent some time with her when she did her Diana Down Under conference out there, didn't you? I always love visiting with her, she really brings so much to the fabric of our homeschool!
Blessings, and would love to hear from you!
Lori at Plans4You