Christmas is just around the corner, and for many families this is also a time we take a family holiday (vacation). It is a busy time and therefore a good time to be reminded to be intentional.

To be intentional means you are deliberate, planned, and purposeful.
To be deliberate means to be thoughtful, careful, and considered.
To be planned means to be organised, strategic, and premeditated.
To be purposeful means to be focused, decisive, and determined.

You may read that list as simply a little foray into the thesaurus or you can read those words and be challenged. I am challenged about how I face the coming month and how I use it for good in my family.

Be Intentional about your Kid’s Heart this Christmas

It is so easy to get swept up in the busyness and even commercialism of this time of year and yet when we do we fragment as a family. We need to guard our heart and our energies and keep our focus on what is important: loving God, loving others, training our children to love God and love others.

At this time of year I have lists, and no doubt you do too. Lists for

  • Gifts to give
  • Food to buy
  • Holiday bookings to organise
  • Invitations to offer
  • House to clean
  • Decorations and gifts to make
  • … the list goes on

But is there any list, any thought, of

  • the character issues I want to help my children with
  • the spiritual lessons my children need to understand
  • the beliefs my children need to develop
  • the passions my children need to grow in

These things are of eternal value – they will impact our children today and tomorrow, far more than the gift they receive, or the experience they have on holidays.

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Unless we name the issues we want to deal with we just stab in the dark, or react to the glaring gap in our child’s life when we are confronted with it. We often react out of embarrassment not intentionality. Instead we can pause today, this weekend, and think through, what do we need to work on? What do I need to teach my children over the next month? What do we need to practice? What do we need to talk about?

Christmas time, ironically, seems to be a very easy time to be selfish. Whether it is about the gifts we want, or how we spend our time, or who we spend our time with. Ironic isn’t it when we are celebrating Christ’s birth – where Christ gave himself to us. Christmas is the beginning of the salvation plan where Jesus died for our sins, so we could be forgiven and walk in harmony with God. Are we making sure that our children (and ourselves) are being God focused or other’s focused at this time?

This goes beyond doing the family devotion, reading the Christmas story and going to church on Christmas day, though all those things are a part of our family tradition and may well be a part of yours.

 

Christmas time is a busy time - but we still need to be intentional about eaching and training our kids' heart
 

To really use this season to teach and train our children’s hearts we need to

  • Know what we want to focus on – what are the spiritual truths, character issues, the passions and beliefs we want our children to grab hold of
  • Know how we are going to pass that onto our children – what opportunities will you use, what scriptures will you share, what stories will you tell in order to pass on your heart to your children’s heart
  • Know when in our busy day this going to happen – sometimes we need to plan sit time together so we can teach our children, other times we will talk and share as we go about our day.
Deut 6:7 says:
Repeat them again and again to your children.
Talk about them when you are at home
and when you are on the road,
when you are going to bed
and when you are getting up. (NLB)

 

Don’t let this month of December slip by without addressing heart issues in your family. But it is such a busy time, and unless we sit down and think about it, talk about it with our spouse, do some praying and planning, we will suddenly find that it is the end of the year and we move onto other opportunities in our family life. Be intentional with your children’s hearts today!

 

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Further Reading:

A Heart Focus Christmas Starts in Your Heart Today:  A heart focus Christmas is about making Christmas significant and it starts in our heart today as we prepare for the celebrations ahead.

Building More than Memories this Christmas:  There’s more to Christmas than building fun memories. Take the opportunities Christmas gives us to strengthens the beliefs and values in our kids hearts.

10 Ideas for Keeping Christ in Your Christmas:  Keeping Christ in my Christmas means reflecting Christ, his love and purpose for people, to the world.

 

5 Comments

  1. MeMock

    Just reading all that made me stressed and gave me a headache! Much better to leave the country and not have to worry about 90% of what you wrote!

    Reply
    • lifestylehomeschool

      You look after the presents and devotions
      Seerung look after the food
      and you are done!
      no stress.
      Leaving the country is a cop out – we will miss you! We haven’t had Christmas with you for ages.
      Jess reckons that if you were here you could just tag along with us and you wouldn’t have to be stressed about anything!

      Reply
  2. Ainsley Smith

    I’ve bought almost all my Christmas presents and planned most of the others which makes me happy. I am thinking about what advent type activities I’m going to do with the kids leading up to Christmas. Can’t sort out food till the people we are having it with let me know what I’ve got to bring so I’m feeling pretty sorted this year. It really does help to plan in advance and think about it early.

    Reply
  3. MeMock

    Now Jessica has the right idea! Smart girl that daughter of yours! Next year…… perhaps?!!

    Reply
    • lifestylehomeschool

      I’ll hold you to that ‘perhaps!’

      Reply

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